Why I want to be called ‘Aspie’

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Why I want to be called Aspie


Evening Folks! Why I want to be called Aspie is my first post in a while. I’ve been struggling with writers block the past few weeks.  What can I blog about? What can I share about my own experiences?

Then I saw a fellow blogger completing a blogging challenge and knew it would help!

So my first topic is to talk about the name of my blog. Aspie Miss.

Aspie and Proud!

My name is very simple.  I describe myself as an Aspie because I am. I was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome (still a term used here in the U.K.) in 2012 at the age of 29.

So why Aspie? I prefer the term Aspie because I prefer to say I’m an aspie rather than I have Aspergers Syndrome.  Or I’m living with Aspergers (like its a small pet I carry round with me!).

If I say I have a ‘syndrome’, people who have never come across Autism assume I’m sick or have an illness. As we all know, Autism isn’t an illness to pity or cure. It’s part of who I am.

I can’t remember NOT being an Aspie as I’ve been an Aspie all my life.

I don’t know how neurotypicals think or experience things as I’ve never been neurotypical.  This is one thing that people don’t seem to understand about Autism. Asking me to be normal is asking me to pretend, which if I had to do all day, would be exhausting.

I am glad to get the chance to explain myself as I know that how to refer to people on the spectrum can be a a touchy subject.  In fact, not so long ago I had a chat with a pupil who felt that the term Aspie was a negative way to talk about someone who has Asperger’s. I guess my hope is that we should all be able to refer to ourselves how we like.

We should be proud to be Aspies and shout it from the rooftops.  Or maybe I should just have this on my desk?

Miss! Miss!

Phew! That’s the reason I want to be called Aspie. Now why Miss?

Two reasons really. Firstly, I am a Miss. As in I’m not yet married.  I live with my boyfriend and who knows maybe one day I’ll be a Mrs. Then I’ll have to change my blog name!

Secondly I’m a teacher.  And anyone who knows anything about teaching, knows that it doesn’t matter if you are really a Miss or a Mrs, if you’re a female teacher you’ll always be called Miss by your pupils. Or Mum! and yes that happens more than you think!

So I’d love to hear from you how you describe yourself or your loved one.  Or is there a phrase that you really hate? Or do you want to be called Aspie yourself?

Speak soon



P.S. If you’d like to know more about different labels and what the differences are between Asperger’s and other spectrum disorders, then check out this page from the national autistic society http://www.autism.org.uk/labels






  1. Canadian Girl

    Good perspective. Thank you. As a mom of an Aspie, accepting my Aspie just the way she is has been a slow journey. When courageous Aspies like you declare your genuine-ness, you help me accept her more.

  2. Cherry Blossom Tree

    Brilliant succinct explanation! Even though I was diagnosed as “Autism Spectrum Condition”, I refer to myself as Aspie too! Or, if I get vacant looks, I’ll then say “I’m autistic”. I don’t use functioning labels as I think they do more harm than good (but that’s my own opinion!). If you check out my blog site, you’ll see that I too had a spell of writer’s block, but mine resulted from burnout and regression. I think we should be able to define ourselves however it suits us… Like you said, I don’t carry my Asperger’s around like a handbag or a pet! ??

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  4. Queen of my castle

    Yes, Aspie has a friendly sort of feel doesn’t it. Much less of a mouthful & less serious that autism spectrum condition. I never know how to effectively pitch it. I was diagnosed in 2015 with ASC (whilst pregnant with my 2nd child). Since then I have experimented with different styles of ‘coming out’ with mixed reactions. I steer clear of Aspergers, as it seams to have negative connotations for some (sounds like a disease of rear Ass) and Autism is more widely heard of. Although, when I use the Autism word, people freak too. There’s no easy way to explain it, but I feel so relieved when I have told people, even if they didn’t get it, or understand me, or accept me better. I feel like I am carrying this big secret trying to fit in. I hate that. So I tell folks as soon as I can and accept that it’s probably not going to have the reaction I’d like. Of the people I have told, I think it takes time to sink in. Slow process, maybe after, they see an article or clip online and they pay a bit more attention. Good luck everyone x

  5. Dawn Marie Robertson

    My wee girl is 10 and on the autism spectrum. I call her my wee autie girl. She quite likes that.


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